T is for Trans began in 2017, when my then-spouse came out as a transgender woman. I started writing because I was trying to understand an experience I hadn’t anticipated and couldn’t find many stories that reflected my own.

What followed was a deeply personal account of navigating a partner’s transition, the changes in our marriage, and ultimately, the end of that relationship.

The writing here reflects my thoughts, feelings, and understanding as they existed at the time. I was learning as I went, and these essays document that process rather than offer advice or speak for anyone else’s experience.

A note about this archive

I stopped publishing here in 2020, but I’ve chosen to leave these stories available for anyone who might find connection, perspective, or reassurance in them.

This blog is no longer active, and I’m not responding to correspondence about its content. I appreciate everyone who has read, shared, or reached out over the years.

Publications

The Stranger: That One Spouse

Media

Vice News: When a Husband Comes Out as Trans

More recent writing

I continue to write about life, loss, relationships, and everything that comes after at A Natalie Observed.