Please consider this page a space for finding resources that helped me. The list is small now, but hopefully will grow over time.
Seattle Support Groups (for Spouses):
Ingersoll Gender Center: SOFFA (Significant Others, Friends, Family and Allies) meets 1st and 3rd Wednesdays each month. The meeting starts in the large group (both Transgender and non-transgender folks) before separating into smaller groups, including SOFFA in the second hour. I have found this extremely helpful, even when spousal attendance is low.
Books (for anyone):
Tomorrow Will be Different: Love, Loss, and the Fight for Trans Equality by Sarah McBride: This memoir is amazing! Sarah writes candidly about her transition and Trans equality. Super informative, but fun to read. Loved it.
Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Resource for the Transgender Community by Laura Erickson-Schroth: This is more of a text book than anything, but I find it helpful when I have questions I want to read answers about rather than search the vast internet or ask Katie. Highly recommend as a guide for most everything Trans.
Super Late Bloomer by Julia Kaye: This is a short and sweet documentation via drawings of Julia’s early days of transition. It brought both Katie and I to tears with how powerful and relatable the message was.
Have you Met your Soulmate? by Ashley Clift-Jennings: Need someone who is the spouse of a transgender human to relate to? This TED Talk was the first memory I have of not feeling alone, that there are others in the world like me out there.
Gender Revolution: A Journey with Katie Couric: This documentary is a nice overview of the gender spectrum. It’s concise and for those who are worried about asking the wrong questions, Katie does a good job of pointing those out and learning in her journey. It’s on Netflix and across most online viewing platforms.
r/mypartneristrans: This is a Reddit forum for the partners of Transgender humans. Katie recommended I look at this when she first came out to me. It was helpful, but a bit overwhelming for me. The internet is a big place that gives you a lot of perspectives and at the time I first found this forum, I wasn’t ready for all the opinions on how to handle my life or the questions I had. That said, this forum is a life-saver and one of the few places I can go, ask a question, and receive a response or encouragement from a stranger without too much judgement. Go. Read. Learn. It’s worth it.
TransGenderPartners.com: This site has a TON of information and resources for spouses! Definitely worth checking out. I can’t even summarize what’s available, there’s so much!
Il était une fois une transition: The author of this blog is French-Canadian supporting her signficant other through transition. It’s written in French for those looking for a non-English resource. Highly recommend.
75+ Amazing LGBTQIA+ Travel Resources, Discounts, & Helpful Sites: This site has a fairly comprehensive list of travelling the world as an LGBTQIA+ human. I haven’t tested everything myself, but I liked what I saw and figured I would add it here. Doesn’t hurt o have more information, right?
T-Central: T-Central is a compilation of an incredible amount of transgender related blog sites. So helpful and informative. I highly recommend giving this a once over and subscribing.
N is for Nonbinary: Just as it sounds – a reader inspired by their own journey with their spouse started a blog like this one. It’s vulnerable and honest and I’m so happy they are doing it.
How Coming Out Saved Our Marriage: This is a touching interview exploring the vulnerability of coming out and the impact on a marriage.
4 Years Into Our Marriage, I Came Out To My Wife As Trans: This is an article published in Huffington Post – UK about a couple who transitions 4 years into their marriage. The cis-gendered wife identifies as bi, so it’s a bit different than my own story, but any article talking about marriage/relationships and how they survive transition is worth reading.
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My spouse and I just found a show called Lost in Transition on TLC and watched all seven episodes today. It shows a good range of outcomes across four couples. One of the couples is divorcing at the start of the series. A few couples are doing well, and there’s one couple that we actually really identify with. I recommend it!
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