As promised, I've pasted the reference list utilized for my paper below. I don't believe the links will work as most of the journal articles were accessed via the student library at school, but maybe the titles can be found elsewhere online or via your local library. The list in total was 2.5 pages typed …
Author: "T" is for Trans
Be the Brick
I'm still writing this paper about transgender relationships (it's my final paper for my Writing class, so it's a quarter-long project). I'll be sure to post my reference list for all of you. To find any research at all about the partners of transgender people is validating. I feel connected to others in this small …
We. Need. To. Do. Better.
In one of my classes, I am required to write a research paper on a topic of my choice. Naturally, I was curious about what studies and peer-reviewed articles have been conducted and written about transgender humans in relationships. When I searched for "transgender relationship" in the library site, I received 18 hits, most of …
4/20
Five years ago today, Katie asked me to marry her. As I look through our engagement photos, their luster seems dulled, clouded in the reality of who my wife in them really was at the time. In retrospect, we were so happy sharing the mutual discomfort of being professionally photographed. But were we really happy? It's …
Validation from the Patriarchy
Katie had the experience of telling her boss the solution to a problem, having them not understand her, asking a male peer the same question, being provided the same solution, and watching as the Boss understood the peer. Her transition is manifesting to the point of perfection - she's crossed to the other side. Katie …
Lost in Transition
Buckle-up – this is a long one: I’ve been insistent for months that I can’t have a conversation about bottom surgeryGender Reassignment Surgery (GRS) vaginoplasty until Katie had done the research. We kept going around and around in the beginning of the transition. Katie knew early on she wanted Thailand. The surgeon, the reputation, the …
Dreams
Today, the thought occurred to me that my dreams about Katie are always with the version of her I knew as Kyle. I don't really know what more to say about that, except the immediate devastation I felt upon realizing it caused me to pause making my lunch, sit on the floor of our kitchen …
