We. Need. To. Do. Better.

In one of my classes, I am required to write a research paper on a topic of my choice. Naturally, I was curious about what studies and peer-reviewed articles have been conducted and written about transgender humans in relationships. When I searched for "transgender relationship" in the library site, I received 18 hits, most of …

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Validation from the Patriarchy

Katie had the experience of telling her boss the solution to a problem, having them not understand her, asking a male peer the same question, being provided the same solution, and watching as the Boss understood the peer. Her transition is manifesting to the point of perfection - she's crossed to the other side. Katie …

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Lost in Transition

Buckle-up – this is a long one: I’ve been insistent for months that I can’t have a conversation about bottom surgeryGender Reassignment Surgery (GRS) vaginoplasty until Katie had done the research. We kept going around and around in the beginning of the transition. Katie knew early on she wanted Thailand. The surgeon, the reputation, the …

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Dreams

Today, the thought occurred to me that my dreams about Katie are always with the version of her I knew as Kyle. I don't really know what more to say about that, except the immediate devastation I felt upon realizing it caused me to pause making my lunch, sit on the floor of our kitchen …

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