Last night, a friend texted and asked how she should address Katie when she mails us their wedding invitation. My friends never cease to amaze me with their capacity for support and understanding. I am incredibly lucky. Also last night, I sat on the couch with Katie after her support group as she detailed the …
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Thanksgiving: Meeting Katie
Not many people can say they have met their spouse twice and had them be totally different people, but I can. I know that my spouse is the same human (in theory) that I met in the beginning, but I'm still in the process of trying to marry those two images together. The man I …
Red Lips
I am asked frequently by those who care about me how I'm doing. I never know what to tell them. I've actually started sending them a link to this blog because it helps explain a small glimmer of what I'm going through. That said, if I were ever going to epitomize this experience through one …
The Kid Question
Katie and I have always been on the fence about kids. I think this is more of a "resistance to letting go of our freedom as adults with a healthy combined income that would rather travel and not be saddled by a family yet" thing. When we were first dating, Katie was very confident in …
Office Holiday Party
This week is my office holiday party. Yes, it's in January and I'm not certain as to why although I could guess that budget has something to do with it. I'm really looking forward to it. I work with the best people! They are so fun and everyone (with few exceptions) works hard and plays …
New Years Eve 2017
At the beginning of December, I told a dear friend that we needed to get breakfast so I could tell her everything that has been going on. Every person I tell presents a perplexing amount of fear at the possibilities on how they will react. This friend in particular had commented twice on how odd …
Fixer Upper
Today was a low day. I can't really pinpoint why, but I woke up grumpy and unmotivated and my usual trick of listening to upbeat music, eating chocolate, and smiling the entire drive to work didn't uplift my spirits. I was going to attend the transgender group therapy session with Katie (twice a month it's …
The Outing: Parents Edition
It's amazing how much we have been through in the past 3 months when I reflect back on it. Every week, every day really seems to present a new question we cannot answer and a set of anxiety along with it. This week, among many things, we have been predominantly occupied by whether to go …
My HRT Introduction
Yesterday, we met the doctor who sees over 650 patients, most of them children, who will see Katie through a hormonal transformation. There is so much irony in realizing my spouse will be returning to a teenage, emotional hell-hole while we talk to a doctor who see mostly teenage, emotional hell-holes. Queue the song Teenage …
Shaved Legs
I want to start by saying that I plan to practice she/her pronouns and using my wife's female name going forward. I need to let go of my husband, a fact that I struggle with daily and have decided to just face in all of it's absolute pain. Mostly, I do feel that using husband …
Planning to Plan a Funeral
I got back from visiting my family in Texas on Monday night very late. I can honestly say I don't recall ever dreading to come home as much as I did this trip. After a few days with my family, or anywhere really, I'm always ready to come home and re-immerse myself in cooking my …
An Introduction: The Outing
On September 9, 2017 I woke up hungover. I had been out the night before with friends until an hour that was later than preferred. Gin and soda with lime: so wonderful in the moment and so awful the next day. Kyle went to get me a breakfast sandwich from Starbucks, a routine that I …
"T" is for Trans 