This blog is about my perspective as the wife of a transgender woman watching the early stages of their spouse’s transition. I chose to write because I needed an outlet for this energy, the emotional output that has drained me over the last year, replacing my blood with new cells, regenerating my identity. I also …
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Name Changes and Cher
I'm going to start this post by discussing the word "Guys" because I really wanted to start my post by saying "Guys! We bought a Vespa!", but I realized that it's probably not appropriate to do so. There is a point to which I wonder how I can really offend people by addressing them by …
TBD
As one can imagine, there are a lot of complicated conversations that happen when your significant other comes out as transgender. One of these joyful topics is no different than any other couple: when and how do we want to have a family? Before Katie came out to me, I was on the fence about …
Humbled
I have received several emails and comments from people like me, from The Spouses. I am humbled by all of you who have reached out to tell your story. It is an incredibly brave thing to tell a stranger about something in your life so personal and painful. I am honored to have given voice …
Bathroom Protocol
Tonight, I asked Katie a pressing question that I'm sure very few of us ever ask our significant others: are you peeing standing up, or sitting down now that you identify as a lady? I was curious because, as we are trained to do early in life, men pee standing up and women pee sitting …
Time for a Dress
This week, for the first time ever, I left the house with my wife while she wore a dress. Wednesday was a warm day in Seattle. To clairfy, "warm" means it wasn't raining, the sun was out, and the temperature was 65 degrees. Spring time and sunshine guarantee Seattleites clog roadways to get to the …
Natalie Revelations About Transgender Culture Post #1: Will and Grace
Disclaimer: Please know that I am very aware I probably offended a lot of people in this post with both my ignorance, lack of research on this topic and overall inability to filter myself. If you have constructive criticism or somewhere I can find some reading on this topic, please point me in the right direction. …
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Reunions and Reflections
Last weekend, I had the pleasure of seeing an old friend from high school. Due to our priorities being in different places, we hadn't stayed in touch. I could belabor the details of what happened between us in school, the ways in which I was hurt by this person and in turn I probably hurt …
Dysphoria and Swimsuit Season
Dysphoria is a new word for me. I even just double-checked the spelling in Google because I'm not used to it. It is essentially defined as extreme discomfort. Gender Dysphoria, by default, is extreme discomfort as a result of the gender or sex you are assigned at birth. I believe where most people do not …
This is Us
I've said it before, and I'll probably continue to say it until there's a better example: having your spouse transition is like experiencing a death. I can imagine that people who have lost someone important to them would respond to me by saying "at least you can still see your loved one". The irony is …
Office Holiday Party
This week is my office holiday party. Yes, it's in January and I'm not certain as to why although I could guess that budget has something to do with it. I'm really looking forward to it. I work with the best people! They are so fun and everyone (with few exceptions) works hard and plays …
New Years Eve 2017
At the beginning of December, I told a dear friend that we needed to get breakfast so I could tell her everything that has been going on. Every person I tell presents a perplexing amount of fear at the possibilities on how they will react. This friend in particular had commented twice on how odd …
"T" is for Trans 