I have received several emails and comments from people like me, from The Spouses. I am humbled by all of you who have reached out to tell your story. It is an incredibly brave thing to tell a stranger about something in your life so personal and painful. I am honored to have given voice …
Tag: outing
Facebook Outing
Today, I outed myself and Katie on Facebook. I'm terrified. We both wrote something separately, counted down a timer, and posted our stories at the same time. The result of my post is below: Dearest Friends and Family – After careful consideration, many conversations, a sprinkle of anxiety (understatement) and even some therapy, Kyle and …
Am I a lesbian?
In the past 2 weeks, I've begun the laborious task of telling my coworkers about Katie. It's a complicated process, as these are people I work with and this is a conversation that doesn't have a space in the workplace. So how do I do it? After a conference call ends, stand in front of …
The Kid Question
Katie and I have always been on the fence about kids. I think this is more of a "resistance to letting go of our freedom as adults with a healthy combined income that would rather travel and not be saddled by a family yet" thing. When we were first dating, Katie was very confident in …
Office Holiday Party
This week is my office holiday party. Yes, it's in January and I'm not certain as to why although I could guess that budget has something to do with it. I'm really looking forward to it. I work with the best people! They are so fun and everyone (with few exceptions) works hard and plays …
The Outing: Parents Edition
It's amazing how much we have been through in the past 3 months when I reflect back on it. Every week, every day really seems to present a new question we cannot answer and a set of anxiety along with it. This week, among many things, we have been predominantly occupied by whether to go …
My HRT Introduction
Yesterday, we met the doctor who sees over 650 patients, most of them children, who will see Katie through a hormonal transformation. There is so much irony in realizing my spouse will be returning to a teenage, emotional hell-hole while we talk to a doctor who see mostly teenage, emotional hell-holes. Queue the song Teenage …
Shaved Legs
I want to start by saying that I plan to practice she/her pronouns and using my wife's female name going forward. I need to let go of my husband, a fact that I struggle with daily and have decided to just face in all of it's absolute pain. Mostly, I do feel that using husband …
An Introduction: The Outing
On September 9, 2017 I woke up hungover. I had been out the night before with friends until an hour that was later than preferred. Gin and soda with lime: so wonderful in the moment and so awful the next day. Kyle went to get me a breakfast sandwich from Starbucks, a routine that I …
"T" is for Trans 