Last weekend, I had the pleasure of seeing an old friend from high school. Due to our priorities being in different places, we hadn't stayed in touch. I could belabor the details of what happened between us in school, the ways in which I was hurt by this person and in turn I probably hurt …
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Facebook Outing
Today, I outed myself and Katie on Facebook. I'm terrified. We both wrote something separately, counted down a timer, and posted our stories at the same time. The result of my post is below: Dearest Friends and Family – After careful consideration, many conversations, a sprinkle of anxiety (understatement) and even some therapy, Kyle and …
The Sexy Topic of Banking Sperm
In the whirlwind before Katie started hormones, there was the stage of trying to figure out how to ensure we could have children should we choose to. We have had many, long conversations about kids during the time we've known each other. Do we? Don't we? Do we adopt and save a child? Could we …
Anger
I’m not prone to anger. I find anger to be a time-waster and I believe that anger is the result of feeling different emotions, stemmed in the roots of a larger problem. Often anger is tied directly to feeling hurt, embarrassed or vulnerable in some way. It’s rare I feel angry to the point of …
Is it Friday?
In my last post, I talked about how I couldn't get off the couch after realizing Katie would be starting hormones soon. I know, I know. How could I not know she would start hormones? It's not so much that I didn't know, but how I chose to acknowledge this step of the process. As …
Day Off
I haven't processed this yet, so this post will be shorter. My wife has an appointment to get her first hormone prescription filled today. I can't stop crying. I had a plan to get my nails done and workout and be a human because I have the day off, but I cannot get off the …
Dysphoria and Swimsuit Season
Dysphoria is a new word for me. I even just double-checked the spelling in Google because I'm not used to it. It is essentially defined as extreme discomfort. Gender Dysphoria, by default, is extreme discomfort as a result of the gender or sex you are assigned at birth. I believe where most people do not …
A Letter Unsent
Dear Grandma and Grandpa, I’m scared to tell you what I need to. I feel compelled to tell you out of the profound respect I have for the person you sculpted my mother to be and, as a result, formed me to be. You see, I believe it is not without you, that I am …
Support Group
Twice a month, the Ingersoll Gender Center opens their doors to the SOFFA (significant others, friends, family, and allies) group. I've attended 3 times, each of which have been so different, which highlights for me the transformation I'm going through in this process. I won't talk much about this group in specifics, as the privacy …
The Wave
I am sitting by the pool at a table for two, but the chair across from me is empty. As I look out at the ocean, I hear laughter and pool splashes and the flutter of enjoyment only experienced when paying for the luxury of a hotel room with a pool by the ocean. The …
Disneyland and a Birthday
Katie's birthday is February 23rd. It's the perfect time of year for a Seattle-lite to make an excuse to vacation somewhere sunny. It's always in the 3rd month of wintery grey that those of us in the PNW start questioning the sanity with which we chose to live here. I really don't think people decide …
Am I a lesbian?
In the past 2 weeks, I've begun the laborious task of telling my coworkers about Katie. It's a complicated process, as these are people I work with and this is a conversation that doesn't have a space in the workplace. So how do I do it? After a conference call ends, stand in front of …
1st GALentine’s Day and Soul Mates
My mom sent me a Ted Talk this week on Valentine's Day (now GALentine's Day for me and Katie). She texted the link with the words "Have you seen this?? This is what you've been talking about!!" Naturally, I was curious. I hit play while in my car on my way to work, placed my …
5 months and Stitch Fix
5-months ago today, I sat on my couch and asked my husband if his shaved face, painted nails, secret depression and hair growth meant something. 6 months ago I was married to a man and now I am married to a woman. Time flies when your marriage is going through a gender-identity crisis. In other …
This is Us
I've said it before, and I'll probably continue to say it until there's a better example: having your spouse transition is like experiencing a death. I can imagine that people who have lost someone important to them would respond to me by saying "at least you can still see your loved one". The irony is …
"T" is for Trans 